The Hangover and why it matters

14. August 2010

We all know it, we all hate it: our bodies, without the numbing effect, try to get rid of a fun night out legacy with too much vodka shots. Ouch! Yes, it is painful and the process can be aided but certainly not stopped.

Hard to think there is something good around this. Well, maybe there isn’t, in a strict sense. However, when going into us, we find that it is quite a natural reaction for doing something harmful to ourselves. Hence, it can be educational. ‘What is he blathering about?’ will you think just now. And this quite rightfully so, as most of the time we are all too willing to engage in another night just about 6 days down the line. In any case, whether you like the booze or not, a hangover is something that will not help you changing your habits. Meaning, you will still go out next weekend, maybe even party harder.

And why is this? In my opinion this is motivated by the fact that we perceive the reaction to the alcohol as something negative, while the actual drinking is, in the core of our minds, unrelated to this. We also find multiple examples for this. Think of the whole childhood education: anything that was not an intrinsic effect of an action, causing a reaction that could be directly and causally mapped to the initial event, was useless. We were relying on quite the long, drawn out process called parenting wrapped around this to get the point.

Now in my world it is actually very naive to believe that, adding a great night out and a paralysing effect of the booze together, humans are capable to use this as a learning exercise.

As a consequence, I propose to change the whole approach. Two options really: either stop drinking or embrace the hangover for what it is – a single, unpleasant way of spending a Sunday. Well, doesn’t sound like we need to learn anything from that after all.

I know what i want from life …

12. August 2010

This thing with the ‘i finally know what I want in life’.

Have you ever had this discussion? I am sure you had! Especially around the time where people turn 30 they seem to be obsessed with this. In no other timespan than their 30′s, it seems to me, have humans more focus on the ‘what they want in life’, or even better, what they want ‘from’ life. This always makes me smile and a little sad inside. I mean, what is it that makes life really enjoyable?? What is it that we miss most in our lifes that we think getting older finally opens our eyes to what we want? Well I tell you something, I think the only thing it shows you is what you don’t want. And saying that ‘you finally know what you want from life’ is just being overly self confident that you have seen it all.

And believe me, talk to someone I their 40′s, they believe it too. They would say there is a similar incremental step since they have been 30 something.

Anyway, coming back to knowing what you do not want. What does this actually give you? Well, if you ask me a good deal. First of all you gear your principles, meaning you macro learn. Paths walked more often within our neuronal grid are strengthened, says the theory. Hence, we will become stronger in what we do more frequently and one-off outliers are more easily forgiven, as they are not persisted within the macro neuronal grid. This will allow us, if we understand a certain meta element in this whole experience thing, to become better human begs, to whatever social norm of ‘better’ that may be.

Secondly, ruling out scenarios is giving us the most usable tool of all. And it is this tool that is, sadly, negated by ‘knowing what you want from life’: dealing with constantly changing environments and frontal impacts to our known value grid. We have to be more arrogant to the world, and ensure that we are the ones that protect our core value grid. Instead of saying ‘i finally know what I want ifrom life’ we should say ‘i know a lot better what I don’t want to do in life’ and ‘i f$ucking have the guts to not do it’.

Flat viewing and the blind date aspect

12. August 2010

So, it’s this time again: moving! What an unwanted thing for humans, to wrap up all there belongings and shift life from one cave into another. Bleh! Nothing more unliked than the shift of cave, out of the known and loved, into the strang and new. Quite horrific for the human mind. In any way, also unavoidable when living in a big city such as this.

Unwanted or not, sometimes unavoidable and certainly necessary once in a while to breath in the full flavoured city experience. He who never moved within a city at least twice has not covered any area, just dots.

Ok, so here we go, we are in the right mindset, we accepted the extra expenses, we accepted the fact to box up our life, we are, actually, mentally and physically prepared to a degree that rarely finds a match in other situations in life. One of those, in my opinion could be the ‘blind date’. I mean, compare it. With a blind date it is similar. Just like with flat viewings, we kinda know what we are doing. Sometimes we get pictures, sometimes they are ‘coming soon’. Sometimes we are prepared to turn our whole life upside down if this is only ‘the right one’. At other occasions we are ‘just looking’, and sometimes we go out and know ‘today it’s the one’.

There is little difference in my book, and to be honest I can’t see any at all. Especially when thinking that in the aftermath we behave similar too. We call our best friends and tell them ‘how it was’. And the first question usually is: ,How did he/she/it look like?’. It seems we also go similarly high in the hierarchy with the two, starting with friends and ending at the one and only reference: mommy.

As you can see, quite the overlap. Question is only what the actual symbiosis are. I mean, a date does not quite have the full potential without a cave for an after show coffee, correct?

Sicko!

15. Oktober 2009

When you are sick, the world is disgusting. No matter what!

Everything tastes bad, everything appears to be stale, nothing lives up to that distant, glorified memory. Well, of course not. It never does. However, on sick days it seems those memories are only shadows of memories, as even the memories themselves turn stale.

And yes, my sneezing habits caused sinusitis this time. My god, I had no idea this was possible. Just from sneezing I got this stupid headache that makes my head feel like Big Ben. This really sucks. But hey, what can you do … it’s just what it is right? Then I tried to get help, some meds or something. No chance in this fucked up country. The doc is only in 2 hours a day. So you better be quick. In my case: ‘Come back tomorrow.’

So that’s what I will do, come back tomorrow. Or will I? Maybe not, as the internet gave me a good idea what is going on. Since the doc is usually googeling the symptoms anyway, why would it make a difference? Ah, yes, because of the prescription. Well, get it online. Antibiotics? Not a problem. From China to the UK next day delivery. Maybe crap, but same time frame for what the UK calls a ‘modern and efficient healthcare system’; more importantly, what it pays billions of taxpayers money for each year. To be honest, I don’t get it.

Let’s learn the game!

10. August 2009

The game is not about winning or losing, it’s not about who is better than who. Tha game is all about being able to take it, transform it and make it, whatever it is you bring in, valued highest.

Best thing to do is to come prepared. Best weapon I found so far is “consequences involving stronger enemies than the one you face”. Know those players, and know when they are actually going to fight your battle. Then, to ensure gracefull applause on finish, bring the little extra along. This will ensure, you are considered the 110% guy!

Thanks to my mentor, who did a great job Today. This will stay with me forever ans one of the highest value, most usable management skills I ever learned.

Time!

01. August 2009

Change your mind … now you can!

The dust is settling, I am not!

01. August 2009

I have given up, given up on myself and given up on the world. In one go I would wipe it out, if only I could. Nothing is worth preserving, nothing is worth the struggle. All will disappear in the infinity of dust and time. Better now than later.